
A few of you noticed my absence over the past couple of weeks. Nothing of concern; I put the blog on temporary hiatus because I was diverging from what Buddhists with their Eightfold Path would call "Right Thought." There's a righteous anger, which is good and useful, and a destructive anger, which is not; I've been slipping toward the latter, and that ain't good.
I'd been reacting so vituperatively to stuff like
this defense of Prop. 8, with the sad URL of "preserving marriage dot org": "Proposition 8 isn't about hating gay couples or their lifestyle. It's about protecting the institution of marriage." That sentiment remains baffling to me, but I shall try to not respond with hate. Instead, I respond with a simple question that probably cannot be answered by anyone who has stuck with me as a reader here: From what, precisely, are you "protecting" marriage? You've chosen the word
protect very consciously, but not very carefully:
protect implies danger is afoot, and I'm not clear on what danger I bring. Please, anti-gay-marriage people: tell me how I am dangerous.
Or instead, pro-8ers, we can agree to this compromise: I'll keep the
Christ in
Christmas if you'll keep the Christ out of the Constitution. Fair enough?
On a related note, I observe that today is
World AIDS Day: a day on which we are reminded how much compassion and research are still needed to address a disease that's affected millions and millions; but also a day on which some of us are reminded of the extent to which we were vilified in years past for the disease's very existence. But again, no anger for ignorance of times past and present; instead, this song of reconciliation, which debuted on the charts this week in 1985:
"That's What Friends Are For," originally a duet between Dionne Warwick and Stevie Wonder; then, spurred by a suggestion from Liz Taylor, transformed into a charity record with assisting vox from Gladys Knight and Elton John*. The song's a bit cloying, sure - and was a surprising revisit for anyone who knew it from its playing over the closing credits of
Night Shift a few years prior - but it's a great bit of Bacharach songwriting, and it was marvelously effective in making AIDS a subject of compassion rather than revulsion. For someone who had to be educated on AIDS via
Rolling Stone magazine rather than through the news, parents, or school, that's kind of an important point.
In good times, in bad times, may we heed the lesson of this song and be friends to each other in a time when AIDS is still very much among us, amid throes of other worldly ills.
* Knight's and John's roles are sung by Luther Vandross and Whitney Houston in the powerful clip I've linked to here.